A question of finances

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In case you didn't already know, there is a fiasco involving an Anthropologie clothing specific blogger who apparently ran a 'personal shopping scam'. It is a really sad story, both for the blogger in question and the victims, and while I don't really know all the details (and I want to steer clear of any speculation), the whole thing has made me reassess my priorities and abilities as a blogger, a style enthusiast, and at the very core of it, a gullible consumer with limited monetary resources.

The sobering thing about the alleged scam is that it makes one question the motive of the blogger. One of the theories is that she was scamming in order to feed her shopping habit and that she was running into tremendous debt. Anthropologie is hardly the cheapest store to shop at (even though it is a tremendously crappy store), and this blogger who apparently works as an office administrator, had different outfit posts almost weekly. I've come to realize that a lot of style bloggers (especially the popular ones) must feel really pressured to constantly be on display. Let's face it, the reason most people go on style blogs anyway is for living vicariously through someone else.

A few weeks ago, someone left a comment asking me how I could afford to purchase expensive items with a grad school salary. I want to first point out that I have a pretty small wardrobe - I have enough clothes just to rotate through two weeks without washing. You know the whole 30 pieces for 30 outfits thing that is supposedly a minimalist approach to dressing? I would kill that challenge. If you took away lingerie, undershirts, socks, pajamas and gym clothes, thirty clothing items are all I have, bags and jackets included. I'd like to think that my minimalist approach to dressing is all it takes to afford nice, expensive items. Unfortunately, that isn't really the case.

The truth is that I'm blessed to have a spouse who earns a decent amount and I've always had a pretty strong financial support system ala mom. I'm a perpetual spoilt brat whose vapid indulgences annoy the heck out of even myself sometimes. We're not by any means rich, but I'd like to think we're pretty comfortable and fortunate. I went to college and grad school on scholarship (hence no school loans) and don't carry any credit card debts. Basically, my only real expenses are groceries, household items and dog care; the rest of my income goes into savings and the occasional splurge. The husband is thankfully, very frugal - he has two pairs of shoes, wears free t-shirts and spends most of his leisure time at used bookstores or gaming. He has absolutely zero interest in sartorial indulgences and thinks my blog a wee bit silly. We have a small car and live in a small rented house, sans kids and sans any kind of grandiose home improvement bit.  And thankfully, we're both antisocial creatures who enjoy each others' company enough that our favorite source of entertainment is either watching movies and drinking at home, or having a pint at the local taphouse and talking about politics (note that drinking is a common theme).

I try to save as much as I can on things that don't really matter to me, like skincare and hair care and makeup. I make my own oil cleanser at home and use the bare minimum of natural skin products (witch hazel, argan oil, moisturizer, eye cream and sun block). I get a haircut about once every three months in Chinatown for $17 including tips. I guess I'm pretty lucky to have mostly problem free skin (apart from a severe case of eczema in the winter) and my hair always looks the same no matter where I get it cut. I have one set of Laura Mercier eye shadow kit that has probably gone rancid and my mascara is just one big goopy thing that has sat on the bathroom counter for eons. I also pack my own lunch to work every day, make dinner most nights and hardly go for coffee runs, even though I need tri-hourly caffeine fixes. I know that doesn't sound like much, but when you put it all together, it remarkably adds up to a lot.

I think I've been spending more just this past 12 months because I have a blog. I've bought more shoes than I have over the last five years and I've indulged in really expensive things that would have given me a heart attack just a few years ago. I know I've beaten this into the ground, but this constant visual stimulation of pretty things causes indiscipline and downright stupidity sometimes. I wanted to share with you this very personal side of my lifestyle mostly because I want my readers to understand that while a lot of bloggers would have you believe that their lives are filled with expensive purchases and idyllic circumstances that spring out of thin air, it's most often not the case. Most bloggers probably have some sort of really good financial support system, be it in the form of a trust fund or a sugar daddy. Others probably work in high salaried jobs, so more power to them. And unfortunately, there are also a good handful that are probably living on debt. It would be wise to read style blogs with a more discerning attitude and a pinch of salt, because bloggers are really just people after all.

35 comments :

  1. First time commenter, but I truly appreciate your honesty in this crazy world of indulgence. There's always a different side to the sugar coated things we see.

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  2. Very good post, and I definitely agree. I don't have a blog anymore, but I used to have one and I would post style photos. Yes, I did feel pressured to look good so I kept buying and buying and buying. I buy less now, and buy better, but I can't quite give up luxury skincare and makeup products, or the frequent dining out. I'm worried that once my new blog will be set up, I'll be back with that constant need to impress.

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  3. Good on you for being honest. I can see how blogging must increase the pressure to "keep up", and I continue to be amazed by blogs that essentially detail consumption without any context. I wonder when retail therapy really took off. I moved to India last year and I am seeing the change take place here. People buying just for the sake of buying. I remember going through that phase when I moved to London few years back, and the relief I felt when I decided to put a stop to it. I love beautiful pieces and take a lot of care to buy the best I can afford, but there is a lot to be said for the ability to enjoy looking without feeling the urge to acquire.

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  4. thanks for doing this post, I agree on saving on small things. I worked out buying coffee everyday at uni instead of bringing a flask was costing me NZD $70 a month! which is ridiculous. I do buy expensive cosmetics and skincare, but only if I think they are worth the price and I only use like 5 products so its not too much anyway. That scam you mentioned is really scary, I don't really know what Anthro-blogging community is though. You sound like you are really careful with your finances : ) I think being able to afford nice things when you don't have a huge disposable income takes a lot of factors coming together.

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  5. I really love the way your write your posts. They are so heartfelt with a slight cynicism that is completely honest. Why wonder you got two scholarships for college. If you write this well, you must be outstanding in school!

    Anyways, I deleted my blog for some of the reasons you mentioned. I noticed my growing credit card bills starting from last year when I discovered the fashion blogosphere. I really got addicted to indulge in a world that is so far from my own reality. I bought 'coveted' items that were never worn for exhorbants amount of money, later to be sold for 1/8 of the price or simply donated because no one wants to buy it. I've moved onto minimalist blogs and recently donated 1/2 of my wardrobe. Once again I have two shelves worth of brand new expensive 'blog inspired' pieces that are waiting to be listed on ebay to be sold for nothing.

    I can afford it and have no debts, but what a huge f***ing waste of money.

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  6. Great post! I think reading blogs made me feel less bad about shopping, because it felt like "everyone does it, so it's okay!" But I have a shopping budget so I'm mostly able curtail my spending. But I soon realised I wanted to save my money for better things and so I've worked towards that.

    I don't think I was ever so impressionable that I assumed could spend on the same level as some bloggers I follow, but it's troubling to think that others may be misled.

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  7. Again, sorry for my incoherent badly edited commentary on your last post. i guess i was just thrilled to uncover some good old-fashioned common sense in the blogosphere.

    I don't think we should freak out about consumerism... it's always been there. i studied the history of decorative arts and design at school and believe me, the popes didn't need jewel studded, gold leaf goblets and ornately carved ivory rosary beads either. totally superfluous as well the gorgeousness of delicate rosewood furniture inlayed with mother-of-pearl of the XVIII century (no DWR mass-produced crap here - all handmade).

    The difference today is that consumerism is possible for a wider range of people, and there must be something good about that. the fact is that yes, one can splurge on rachel comey - regularly - but there's no guarantee that you'll look better than the person with great style who is wearing Missoni from Target and thrift shop shoes.

    So no apologies for loving clothes, fashion, pretty things.

    the aspect of blogging which irritates me is the self-consciousness of it. and then SOME bloggers have an incredible narcissism - ie the entire blog - 3 or 4 years worth - is ENTIRELY COMPOSED OF PHOTOGRAPHS THEY TOOK OF THEMSELVES IN VARIOUS OUTFITS.

    it's even worse than the "look-at-my-pretty-life" ones.

    unbelievable. if i were doing that, i feel like my conscious would speak up. a shrill little voice would say, "YOU ARE AN ASSHOLE."

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  8. Another insightful post... Actually, I've got to the point that imagining the vast amounts of clothes some of these bloggers must have just puts me off shopping - a lot of these bloggers don't have a definable style or personality in their clothes because there's just so many different outfits and different pieces, and organising them (let along affording!) must be a nightmare. And how can you really love a piece of clothing if it’s one of so many?

    I'm in similar situation to you in that, although my wage as a designer is low, my outgoings are also low, so I have a relatively reasonable disposable income. I’d much rather save up for a few brilliant things than spend easily and freely on cheaper ones – and I think this is a much ‘better’ way to shop in many ways, ethically and personally. Although, it’s easy when you read blogs to use them as a way to justify whatever type of spending you want – whether that be ‘as much as possible’ or ‘little but pricey’!

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  9. I also liked this post (and your blog more generally). I was reading about the anthro blogger and actually bought it up in a student's defense yesterday. It's very sad on all sides, although it seems like it was perhaps inevitable for all the reasons you mention. I'm sure we've all noticed the recent downturn in consumption, the move to thrift in blogging and the recycling of clothing.

    I am otherwise thrifty, like you, but clothing has always spoken to me in a way that was tough to resist at times, although I am now trying to learn from my mistakes. I don't drink, we cook at home or eat at cheap, good ethnic restaurants, I pack my lunch, don't go for coffee, don't take cabs and am minimal in practically every other area. Now I'm trying to be disciplined with clothing too as it seems insane to be careful elsewhere and then splurge--particularly on items I may not need or wear often. I do have a job but in this market, I think it's best to be cautious anyway.

    But, yes, blogging has at times made me feel I need to buy more--and I've noticed I get more comments on posts where I discuss new purchases or share items I covet. Ironically, those are the easier ones to write and yet it seems like there is a push to consume that radiates around blogs. I suspect the tide is turning, however. And, yes, the narcissism of bloggers who only take pictures of themselves in their new outfits gets old fast. I suspect the pure fashion blog is dying and that's one reason why.

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  10. I appreciate your honesty in all your posts. I used to spend a lot on clothes, but without much planning. A couple of years ago, I just stopped. Maybe it was the economy. Mayber it was that my closet was getting too full, but I still didn't have anything to wear.

    Recently I stumbled on your blog and some others that discuss the minimal wardrobe. As a result, I've reassessed what I have, what I really need and where I went wrong. I feel like I'm more focused and when I spend next it will be on something that really fits a gap in what I have and be something that I'll actually wear for a long time.

    The ironic part of all of this is that with the list I feel more apt to shop or peruse fashion blogs, which the feeds the twitchy need to shop more. It's like I'm discovering all these new needs I didn't know I had. I think the only way I have of coping with this is to slow down (and sometimes budgetary reasons make it so I have to slow down!). If I still feel like it's the right thing and the right price, I'll feel that way in a couple of weeks. Like, I'm making myself wait another week to buy new black boots to replace the ones I've worn for the last 3 years and a leaking. If that's not a need in Seattle, I don't know what is. But I don't want to impulse shop.

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  11. @Mishi Thanks for commenting! It's funny how a lot of blog readers end up having some sort of warped notion about a reader based on some idealized projection.
    @Christine
    I think maybe that's the reason I try to keep outfit posts down to a minimum, I don't feel as pressured to keep up with a new item every week. Hah!
    @Ammu
    It doesn't matter if you're in India or London, most of the girls in either country will tell you that they measure the term "fashionable" by the number of items someone owns. Pretty sad, really.
    @a
    Isn't it weird how much coffee adds up to? I know some people who drink coffee out 3 times a day and not the cheap drip ones at that. I just bring a French press and grind my own coffee. $12 for a pound of (very good) beans lasts me approximately three weeks.

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  12. @Wendy
    I can totally relate! I've never sold as many *new with tags* items as I did last year - mostly because I started this blog, bought into the whole "essentials list" thing and started buying just to tick things off my list. Big mistake. Most of things I bought were just for the sake of buying. I spent nights feeling completely disgusted with myself. Thank you for your very nice comment by the way, I appreciate it.
    @lin
    Someone commented about how she felt alienated when she looked at blogs where grad students could afford expensive shoes and bags. I felt bad that I may be one of those bloggers that make readers think it's their fault if they couldn't spend as much on pretty things. BTW, I always enjoy your comments - I don't know how you manage to put things together so succinctly and intellectual.

    @cizinka
    The "outfit of the day" blogs are mind-boggling sometimes. I honestly don't think those kind of blogs are very interesting or very sustainable in the long run, even if the outfit is thrifted or bought from F21 from head to toe. I don't think I could ever do one of those blogs because I would look the same in every post.

    @Siobhan
    Completely off topic, but I just learned how to correctly pronounce your name a year ago so yay! But, um you are right - the disposable wardrobes that so many people have (and parade quite proudly) is nauseating. It's not that you can't find good pieces at a cheap price, it's just the sheer quantity of really bad clothing that is disturbing.

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  13. @Moya
    Moya, do you like my blog because we have a shared interest in Krugman-esque pessimism? :D Up until a few posts ago, the most comments I was getting was when I posted about a pair of Isabel Marant boots. I can see how a lot of bloggers will feel pressured to post something that will drive traffic to their site. It's funny when I see sites talking about being a "recessionista" and the solution is to shop at Target rather than J.Crew.
    @Anonymous
    Oh, I've thrown the list out of the window. I found that I was always looking at blogs and online stores just so I could tick something off my list. These days I just make a mental note of what I need but I'll only casually browse every now and then and if an item doesn't measure up to a set notion of what I want I'll let it go. Buying just to check something off a list is pretty silly. Good luck in your boot search! Don't wait too long as it might be raining next week.

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  14. What a refreshing post, Amanda. I have a love/hate relationship with reading blogs and blogging. Mostly, I just can't stand how narcissistic the whole enterprise can be. By the sounds of it, I think we have similar financial backgrounds. Like what you, Moya and some others, I try to keep my daily expenses to a minimum, but have always been drawn to fashion and fancy clothes. I started feeling the strange urge to buy more after I started reading other people's fashion blogs, but oddly, I have found that my own blogging has helped reduce my purchases. For me, blogging about how nice an item is often helps "get it out of my system." But, I will say that I've hardly made any purchases since I started splitting my time between DC and Philly...I think that cutting back the time spent reading blogs and looking at online boutiques has really helped cut my spending.

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  15. While I don't think you have to explain to your readers how you can afford certain things, I understand your reasoning behind it and appreciate your honesty. Personal style blogging is interesting because on the one hand, part of the appeal of a personal style blog is that it makes fashion accessible in ways that editorials or runways shows do not. And yet, it might suggest something very different from reality, with people making financially irresponsible decisions or even struggling with debt in part to sustain a certain readership. I used to think that, for me, the shopping lead to blogging, not so much the other way around. But now that I've spent some time away from blogging and actively posting on fashion forums and have been essentially dressing only for myself (not many people to impress IRL), I've realized how much of my consumption over the years have been driven by that longing for attention ... not necessarily a certain narcissism but a need to belong. I appreciate the direction of your blog for bringing up such interesting angles on style blogging. It's always refreshing to see the reality brought back to style blogs.

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  16. Amanda, thank you so much for responding to my question and addressing the issue of finance that all blogs seem to evade. I want to say that I asked this question not because I was so impressionable as to feel the pressure to buy the same things as the bloggers I follow, but to bring up the point that most bloggers seem to have a lot of expendable income. Thank you for being so candid about your finances. I think it takes a lot of courage to post so honestly about your own relationship with blogging, fashion, and consumerism and wealth. It's something almost everyone struggles with, yet no one seems to discuss. The world of fashion blogs seems so recession-proof, with people buying tons of stuff without a moment's regret. So thank you again for taking some time out to express your feeling on this sensitive issue so eloquently. I think you have great taste in clothing and I do look forward to future posts. More importantly,your viewpoint on most things fashion-related is one that is completely unique and refreshing in the blogosphere. Keep it up!

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  17. Same here because I've started to post "outfits" on the blog I feel the pressure to keep things and avoid repeating things. In the end though I think most people realize that blogger = human beings and not trust fund babies and they might even appreciate the creativity of mixing the old with the new! Great food for thought here.

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  18. so many great and honest points made here. the unfortunate phenomenon of fashion bloggers spending recklessly to 'keep up' really reflects the illusory world of the fashion industry in general. i just saw the documentary 'Seamless' that followed three finalists for the first CFDA awards and a model remarks that behind all the glitz, everyone's really broke and living on the edge of poverty in an industry where you can be 'successful' without making a profit. very interesting look at the struggles of young designers, i recommend it!

    i've never felt the need to post 'new' outfit posts, thankfully, and i'm glad that many of the fellow bloggers that i read in my little blogging circle are also like-minded about curbing unnecessary shopping and making more with less. shopping addiction is really a serious problem, though, on par with gambling or other addictive behaviors. it's a shame that our culture actively encourages and normalizes it especially in women.

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  19. it's amazing how much expendable income one has even on a grad student stipend ($20k-ish for the humanities) when you don't have loans, credit card debt, or children.

    unfortunately i didn't fit that profile (and still don't as a post-doc), but i also don't eat out, go on vacations except to see family, work out at gym, use netflix, or spend my money on anything but books and clothing.

    i used to buy 4-5 expensive things a month, now it's more like 1 piece every 2-3 months. i lost myself for a few years, and i'm still paying for it. taking a step back from blogs, focusing on the things that will last, and enjoying what i have...not such easy things to do, but i'm getting there.

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  20. @erica - as a grad student, i also made about $20k a year and had no loans, credit card debt, or children, but i really disagree with you in regards to expendable income. after rent ($500-600/mo), car insurance, food, and saving for holiday travel to visit family - i think that hardly leaves a lot of expendable income, certainly not enough to buy anything expensive much less 4-5 things a month. if you're spending nothing except on books and clothing, then someone else is paying for all the other basic necessities - room and board in your life.

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  21. I really love the way you write, and this is such an interesting post. My salary is rediculously low considering the 4,5 years I've spent at university=student loans. Our living expenses are pretty reasonable, and since my kids are so young and childcare is very cheap in Sweden compared to the States, I allow myself the occational splurge. I hardly spend any money eating out, and also pack my lunch every day. Before I had kids I used to spend a lot of money on drinking/eating with friends. So, in many ways, I know what you mean.
    I don't feel the pressure to post new outfits or clothes, quite the opposite! I prefer posting old stuff, I feel really bad when I notice that I've been posting pictures of just new things. It makes me a bit disgusted with myself. Recently I haven't really had any ideas for posts. I mean, who really wants to see my jackets, haha!?

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  22. I agree with S, I really don't think you have to explain your financial situation to your readers! but I understand why you wanted to in light of whats going on in the blogging world at the moment. Knowing that you don't have a student loan, and how you balance your finances etc makes me feel like less of a failure. I know that sounds sad, but a lot of the time, when I'm reading blogs written by grad students (I'm at grad school as well without a blog) who seem to be able to easily afford to spend $1000s on clothes I just feel really bad. And there is nothing wrong with getting help from parents and being well off : ) it just annoys me when people are in a good enough financial position to be able to indulge in designer clothes, don't admit it, and claim to just budget really well, when its pretty clear that there is more than that.

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  23. Overspending has always been there, is not just that you have a blog and suddenly you want more clothes. There are people that don't know how to take care of their finances, it's up to you how you spend your money don't blame blogs or any other things on your mistakes. People should evaluate how much money have to spare in clothes, going out, vacations...or whatever they fancy. I guess many bloggers have the need to explain how they can afford expensive purchases, but we should be smart enough to know if we can afford or not the things that they buy. For me read blogs has help me to realize I don't really need so many things and also listen to my mum's advice: "don't buy so many crap things, but one but a quality one".

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  24. @Anonymous

    obviously it's different for everyone, but when you walk and bike everywhere, your grocery expenditures are the absolute minimum ($80/wk for me), and a trip home twice a year costs $600 total (back when discount fares were more common), then one can still have $300-500 left over after paying for the bare necessities.

    by the way, i didn't say i was debt-free, so 4-5 things a month occasionally meant going over budget in my case. but plenty of my cohort were more than able to live well on a grad stipend, whether that meant weekends in nyc or eating out.

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  25. @Everyone

    I probably opened a whole can of worms with talking about finances because money is a testy subject for every body. Different people have different priorities and different ways of how they view their own finances. Perlunaday, I am not blaming blogs if I overspend, I am pointing out that the way I respond to visual stimulation from blogs is that my self-discipline breaks down. I know that I get curious as to how some bloggers seem to have an endless barrage of spending power which is why I am writing this post.

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  26. cool post. i think you've done the blogging community a favour by discussing finances openly, as it can be pretty easy to get carried away with wanting the it bag or shoes etc after seeing on all your favourite blogs. that said i do agree with lunaday, as managing finances should be a matter of prioratisation and common sense. i was always taught to save and buy what i could afford, so its beyond me how ppl end up with credit card debt that was used to buy handbags of all things. i try my hardest not to judge but its hard sometimes.

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  27. Really insightful post, and I liked reading all discussion from it! To go on a slight tangent, I especially liked the point that you brought up about blogs built upon "outfit of the day" posts not being a sustainable model for blogging -- I completely agree. I would much rather read a well-written post/occasional outfit post once a week than scroll through daily photos of outfits with no insightful commentary.

    Also, even though I find that I do feel the desire to shop more as I add more and more blogs to my reader, blogs like yours make me want to curb my habit of impulse shopping!

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  28. Amanda, I've really enjoyed reading both this post and the one before it. I'm coming back later to say more & read through all the comments, as I'm literally on the way out the door right now, but for a start I wanted to say thank you so much for such well written post.

    All this stuff has been on my mind SO much lately and it's such a relief to read someone else writing the same things I'm thinking, if that makes any sense :)

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  29. Thanks for such a strongly written post, Amanda. I read it a few days ago and have been mulling it over since then. I'm definitely guilty of using my own blog as justification for splurging now and again, and I do worry that my blog gives off the impression that I buy all of the pretty things I write about (I definitely do NOT! I'd be in the poorhouse).

    There seems to be an issue of self-control at stake here. They say women dress for each other... but what does that mean with regards to an online community? Writers and readers -- and I myself am both -- might do well to weigh the impact of style blogs on their "real" and financial lives. This post definitely helped me solidify some of the thoughts I've been having over the past few months.

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  30. I haven't read through all of the other comments, so I'm sorry if this is a rehash, but I just wanted to say that I appreciate this post a lot. While I do enjoy browsing through some of the ritzier fashion blogs (Fashion Toast, Sea of Shoes, etc.), those blogs have basically become akin to high gloss mags to me. In the past year or two, I've felt much more drawn to blogs like yours to keep my head and think more conscientiously about purchases.

    I think it's smart that bloggers are talking more openly about shopping ethics and consumerism. It's simply not enough sometimes to post pretty pictures!

    http://damnfinecoffee.blogspot.com

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  31. I have been over thinking this topic inside of my own head for some time now, and was pleased to see it manifested in your words here, and so very well discussed (both in the post and its accompanying comments). I also often wonder about how the ceaseless exhibition of purchased items affects the impressionable, who's tendency to overspend may become exacerbated upon exposure to it. In a sense, fashion bloggers have become the (mostly) unpaid/unwitting champions of said brands, continuously advertising their wares for free. Something about this repels me, and yet I imagine that the majority may not even be terribly conscious of it. Only blogs espousing the minimalist aesthetic tend to question it (to my knowledge) and hold it up for criticism - which is honestly so refreshing to see. Prior to stumbling upon such blogs, I felt like a wanderer lost amongst the throng admiring the 'emperors new clothes'.

    I do feel that the continuous stream of inspirational imagery has accelerated the issue of overspending, regardless how many may have already developed this tendency prior to it. No array of glossy magazines can quite match the stimulant effects of tumblr, for instance, where a never ending slideshow of covetable imagery glides by into infinity. I also suspect that it has other untoward effects upon us (and perhaps more so the younger ones) such as challenges to self esteem. I wonder how many of us have felt just a teeny bit intimidated by the luxurious imagery containing garments/interiors/gadgets, etc which we cannot by any means afford. I have occasionally felt overwhelmed by it, and had to back off a little to clear my poor mind!

    What I tend to do nowadays is take my inspiration in the form of translating it to my own budget or to re-asses items which I already own (and I honestly own enough, don't we all?) with a view to gaining fresh insights into how I wear them or wish to style them. Whilst there have always been various elements of our lives which require fulfilment, I think that this particular, internet driven consumerist promise to enrich us is stunningly insidious and very difficult to subvert. I wonder how it will pan out, ultimately?

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  32. hi,
    I was wondering about the comme des garçons cardigan you sold. I'm thinking of getting one in the same size and I was wondering if you could help me out with sizing. I'm about 5'6" and a size 2/4, do you think it would be way too big?
    thanks
    : )

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  33. @Anonymous Hi, I think that an S would fit you perfect. Not too big at all, it is men's sizing. But if you're amply endowed in the chest, it might not work for you. I think an S would safely fit someone up to a 34 size chest.

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  34. I really agree with your point. I mean, sometimes, style bloggers are so pretentious. I like the fact that you're true to your style and that you're sharing it with us! It inspired me somehow because style blogging causes too much question for me. I see a lot of fashion bloggers here and there who looks so glamorous or pretends to be one and pretends to be having no problem at all in acquiring all expensive stuff. I started my own fashion blog but I only blog what I have and I don't really need to buy expensive stuff just to get this impression that I'm well off. That is so materialistic. Besides, I don't want to be trapped in a sinful blogging style (you know, the too materialistic approach).

    Kuddos to your post! I really love it!

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  35. Do you know where the beautiful knit are from? :-)

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